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I can't remember what I googled, but google got me here.

"Separation support forums"? something like that.

Perhaps a lame one, but.. too empathetic, or not always willing to stand up for my point of view because I try too hard to see it from others.

As an example, a friend of mine got ripped on by some...

I am so sorry for what you're going through Luba, lots of love and support from across here :hug:

That's a tough one. I would say in areas where possible turn them into high speed trains, or light rail and any net area left place renewable energy generation.

What's the longest period of time...

Hey misfitsquid,

I can't give you nearly as eloquent or useful advice as Vautrin gave. I would highly recommend you read his post, sleep, and read it again to ensure you really understood all of...

Things have. Not saying its been easy, and at least I still have feelings of resentment from time to time. There are definitely still times when I think it would have been easier to just end the...

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That was great advice Vautrin!

Sometime soon maybe I'll jump on here and give another update.

I want to say thanks again to everyone who helped me out on this thread, I feel...

Hey canguy,

Unfortunately I have not read your whole post. I get where you're coming from in your last one though. Trust me in my situation I heard the "Who knows what the future holds" a few...

So, I thought I would come back, and post a "the 6 months after reconciliation" post.

Obviously this message board gets a lot of separation to divorce, or separation to reconciliation posts. I...

Hey, I didn't get a chance to read your entire post yet but I just wanted to let you know - you're not alone, I was in your shoes 7 months ago almost to the day, all I can tell you is to be strong...

Wondering why I haven't posted at life supporters in like 4 months :S !!

Sorry for being MIA guys! Miss you guys, I'm trying to fidn time to join some convos soon!!! :)

I'm thinking the new car I bought after the accident is a lemon :S burning some oil and already replaced the cam and crank shaft positioning sensors (did it myself at least..), that cleared my check...

Hello! My heart goes out to you. I am so glad to hear that you're leaving. That is not a situation I would wish upon anyone.

I truly hope your family is there to support you through this, it...

haha sorry Luba, when I tell people in person I always start with "Don't worry, I'm absolutely fine..". So don't worry, I'm absolutely fine :)

Somehow I walked out of the accident without a...

ahh are you a Leafs fan? Should be an interesting season.. my cable package forces me to have leafs tv so i figure i'll just watch the "game in an hour" every week to stay caught up. Unfortunately...

Anxiously awaiting my new car!!!

Well, my new used car.

What's new with you Luba?

Adapt Improvise Overcome!!

Well done Snooks, and once in awhile the boss that doesn't believe his top performers deserves to hear where to shove it..

Snooks - Just remember, its noon somewhere!!!!

Working :( late night, didn't go to sleep until 3 am.. up at 5:30 AM and to the office.

Sorry for the silence guys - things are still going well. We talked about a lot - and since then have been enjoying each other's company, even during the mundane moments, and I'm glad I listened to...

5 hours sleep, drinking my first coffee at 11 AM.. and it's below average lunch room coffee :( but at least its free...

Thanks Luba and Vautrin for your support as always :)

Hey Skyler, yes we have one son.

For awhile I was the only one putting effort into it. Twice I implemented a "no contact" rule (although...

Good luck TKDLady!!! You seem like an excellent person, I doubt you'll have a problem getting the job!!

Well I made it as clear as I could that I want to understand what happened to help us, not hurt her or me, and the questions went pretty well. For instance I asked her... "You were feeling like by...

Counting down the minutes to the end of my day job!!!

Nope you're not alone Duke, apparently we're rare though...

Thanks guys.. Yup you're right, I have to talk to her about some things.

Before all of this I would have talked to her about anything. I don't want my questions to come off the wrong way, I...

Luba you a fellow canuck?

RIP Jack, I appreciate what you did for Canadian politics and your party!!

Duke had great advice.

More then likely it's some 14 year old with enough knowledge to use Nessus and MetaSploit... put the site ip in, scan, find a weak point, right click in MetaSploit and hit...

So she's asked to reconcile, and wants me to move back in with her.

I've said yes I want to reconcile and move in.. I'm not sure how quickly to take this now. I'm also struggling with how much I...

I guess I'm not quite sure what I'm asking either. I guess I kind of feel like I want her to miss me (which she obviously does) but it confuses me that she wants to spend a lot of time together yet...

So, need some advice.

Since I got back from Chicago things have been pretty good. She's expressed a lot of genuine love and put effort into seeing me and expressed her feelings pretty well.
...

I really appreciate your guys positive moral support!

We had our talk last night. It was actually really good as far as openness, and honesty. She's identified a few issues she has that she needs...

Hey guys,

On Wednesday night I got a call from my wife, she was crying and devestated because she missed me and because she was worried I would sleep with someone out of revenge.

I did...

Thanks guys :) We talked on the phone and she has reached back a bit, but I'm not getting my hopes up until I see some real effort.. Chicago has been amazing their night life is craaaazy.. glad i...

Hi Snooks!!

Thanks .. appreciate it :) I really plan to stick around and be a part of the family.. of course life takes us a lot of places but I just think this place is awesome.

Well we were...

Definitely makes you think ;)

Hey Luba,

I had my son last night and my wife and I spent some time together after he went to bed. It was pretty good. I'm kind of getting used to this as my life while I'm in this "transition...

Just checking in.. I finished the move yesterday. Living with my brother today. Obviously a tough day.

Unfortunately with all the emotions flying around with the move and I made a bit of a...

Just gave my son a bath and put him to bed..

tomorrow I vacate my townhouse and move in with my brother and sister-in-law.. should be an interesting day!

Thanks Vautrin,

The hope has crept in there a tiny bit but I'm keeping it subdued ;)

I plan to let her initiate anything that happens, see where she goes with all of this this week.. then it's...

Well this week has been interesting.

On Monday she came to our old house to pack.

On Tuesday I drove her home.

Wednesday I took a load to her house and stayed for a little bit, ended up...

I've been in 3 fights. I learned not to fight. I know what two of them were about and I probably learned a bit, but in general they were stupid fights!

# One - I was at a club and and a bar fight...

You know I've asked myself that the last week or so. Really it's not much different.

She's still a stay at home Mom.
She goes out with the same people, to the same places, for the most part.
She...

I think the timing of this trip will be good. I've really made a concentrated effort to stay away from her and not even talk to her unless about our son or she reaches out to me for the last week and...

I think I'm on the seat behind you on that roller coaster TKD! ;)

I saw on another thread you're going through a lot.. :hug:

Same as Twinkle... I must have bottled up the last 10 years of...

I've tried to be as emotionally steady as possible, and open and available to her when she wants it, but not reach back (there have been a few moments of weakness).

I wanted her to start...

That whole conversation came up because she was on my Facebook and saw the conversation someone started with me where I found out she had been with another guy.

She called me and said she felt...

I explained why, she was basically saying every 10 minutes her head was in a different place, so I told her she shouldn't force herself to make a decision if she's not ready. Especially if that...

Her motives are really hard for me to get at right now.. being realistic, this whole thing may have started because of confusion and us moving and her not being a stay at home type of personality. I...

Well, she really likes to confuse me. ;)

When we separated the first time for about 12 hours we discussed the fact that living away from her friends and family was causing issues with her. We rent...