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  1. #1
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    Apr 2016

    Any ideas?

    Im a 27 year old male and Im still living with my parents, but its not what you think. You see, when my parents moved to the United States I was only six years old. They worked their butts off trying to keeps us alive here. It was a challenge for them since they didn't speak the language and we didn't have any family established here to help us out. My mom and dad did everything including housekeeping, janitorial, mechanics, etc.

    They kept me alive in this country and provided me with everything I needed to have a happy childhood. In 2005, my dad lost his job and the stress caused him to have a heart attack. With him unable to work, my mom and I continued to work. She was a housekeeper for a casino and I worked at fast food restaurant. Years went by and my dads health did not improve. I am 27 years old now and gotten a good job that pays well. Not well enough to support my parents and live on my own. The worse thing happened yesterday, my mom was fired from her job that she had been working 13 years for. I am now the only person in my household that makes an income.

    So basically I need advice. I don't know what to do at this point. I owe them a lot and cant just turn my back on them (what kind of human being would). However, I don't see any option that would allow me to move out and live on my own life. I wish I was in a position to start my own family and live a life deemed normal by culture.

    The worst part is that when I tell people I still live with my parents, they come to the conclusion that Im just a coward that cant face the real world.

    Im whining and I know that but I needed to whine

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Jun 2005
    Somewhere over the rainbow!

    Re: Any ideas?

    Welcome to Lifesupporters, Redshadow.

    First of all, you aren't whining! You seem like a loving, caring son to me who is helping a loving, hardworking family! You ought to be congratulated and I am doing that now.

    A LOT of children have moved home and actually aren't helping out as I've heard. But you ARE!!

    If people are telling you that you SHOULD be doing this or that, telling you how to live your life, then maybe it's a good idea not to talk to those people about your personal stuff. YOU know you are helping your parents and they sound like such loving, hard working parents to have raised a loving, hard working son like YOU!

    Your Mom sounds like the kind of lady that will try to get another job, and succeed at obtaining one. Right now she needs help with the stress of losing her job and the health of her husband, so it's a lot for you all! Kindness though all this trauma will help a LOT, and you are doing so! I say KUDOS to you, Redshadow.

    Please keep us posted as you are a very inspiring person, I think.

    PS I use a LOT of smilies because your post was very inspiring to me!
    Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.

    True love is wanting to give to another person without any thought about
    who’s getting the better of the deal.

    Love always creates, it never destroys. In this lie's man's only promise

    ~All quotes by Leo Buscaglia

  3. #3
    Join Date
    Jan 2012

    Re: Any ideas?

    Welcome Redshadow to LS.

    .... this is because you deserve some applause for what you are doing, no matter how hard it is for you personally right now. What a remarkable man you are.

    You are allowed to whinge , we all need too sometimes.

    I agree with the comments made by Luba that emotional support is important to you all right now, especially as you sound like a very close family group.

    I do hope that your Mother finds something else to make your lives more stable again.

    There is no set time for anyone to move out so being 27 and living at home, in my mind, is not an issue. In fact it seems to be the trend that families are moving back together for both monetary and emotional reasons.

    I look forward to hearing how things are progressing for you.

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